JustThink#76



DAY6,13th Oct,2022
Today was a different day, not in terms of very productive day, but different in the sense that yesterday I was watching gamer youtubers whole day and today, I spend whole time on one youtuber who does random challenges with his friend and family..

YUP, other than that everything is literal same...
I feel my mornings are very lesss productive as compared to my evenings,like I am actually very active in evenings doing reading, writing, watching old one punch man anime, talking to my friends for hours etc etc
But it should be reversed not becoz there is any gurantee that if you wake early and do your work in morning, you will complete most of your work...its different for different people you know...
Actually, in my case, I need to have reversed routine as my whole family sleeps before 12am midnight and so its more logical to actually have a good morning routine than to be active in the evenings...

Damnnnn, this Paytm service is sooooo bad yrr, just had a conversation for my paytm merchant deactivation for literally 5th time and for more than 8 months I am trying to close my fathers merchant accont but for some reason, they are just useless and ignorant enough to not focus on my request...
Giant companies really have this problem of solving issues of the customers at ground level...

ALSO,
Completed reading next chapter from Laws of Human NAture on topic called ENVY(Jealosy)...
As I had mentioned earlier about mary and jane besties story of envy from jane on mary's good life...loved the way writer had clarified how envy is natural but not good in extreme cases...
Author has considered two types of envy, one is passive which we usually feel sometimes, like a small sparks in our mind whenever we hear or see something better than our life...which is fine as its a small spark which come and goes as it doesn't bother you much...
BUT
Problem arrives with second type which is Active Envy where person having envy start reacting and acting on their emotions which usually impact other person from whom they envy....
Author says, passive envy is fine but stay away from active envy, although we all at some point of life experience active envy but its okay until its not a part of your core nature...
Envy or jealosy is so tricky as we can't really see that feeling on people's face as they disguise it very cleverly...without letting us know...

As I said earlier, some exercises for everyone to reduce this feeling as ofcourse there is no way you can't feel envy in your whole life...and if you say you can't...then whether you are not aware about yourself OR you are just lying OR avoiding it...
but you can't run from it as its core nature of human beings to feel like this...

5 exercises to keep in mind and practise on daily basis form book itself:

Move closer to what you envy—Look at whole picture of reality rather than just positives of people’s life as no one’s life is as perfect as it look or sounds…don’t degrade their achievements or success or good momets but do observe whole picture behind this good moments having hardwork, efforts, sacrifice and many more in long run…

Engage in downward comparisons——You normally focus on those who seem to have more than you, but it would be wiser to look at those who have less…As a related exercise, you can write up all the positive things in your life that you tend to take for granted—the people who have been kind and helpful to you, the health that you presently enjoy. Gratitude is a muscle that requires exercise or it will atrophy.

Practice Mitfreude.—-Schadenfreude, the experience of pleasure in the pain of other people, is distinctly related to envy, as several studies have demonstrated. When we envy someone, we are prone to feel excitement, even joy, if they experience a setback or suffer in some way. But it would be wise to practice instead the opposite, what the philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche called Mitfreude—“joying with.”

Actively participate on people’s good moments to feel what they are feeling…practise it

basicaly, "dusro ki khushi me apni khushi..."

Transmute envy into emulation.——-

We cannot stop the comparing mechanism in our brains, so it is best to redirect it into something productive and creative. Instead of wanting to hurt or steal from the person who has achieved more, we should desire to raise ourselves up to his or her level….First Believe in Yourself with your work and Second, we must develop a solid work ethic to back this up.

Admire human greatness. —Admiration is the polar opposite of envy—we are acknowledging people’s achievements, celebrating them, without having to feel insecure.


Thats all for today, thoda jyda heavy hogaya shayad...
FunFact: Monkeys also feel envy among each other....